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Today didn't go according to plan. To be honest, today was probably my worst day in quite a while. Lots of disappointment and lots of crying. Lots of bad thoughts.
I'm still here. Thankfully I did not hurt myself. I did cry the most I've cried in a long time. Don't know if you can see in the photo, but I have almost like rashes under my eyes from rubbing away way too many tears. God I look bad up close tho ๐Ÿ˜‚

Thank you everyone for your concern. Even though today really sucked, your kind words helped me feel much better. They warmed my heart and showed me that at least, I'm not completely alone in this world.
I'm still on my HRT journey, hoping that one day, I'll feel better about all of myself. One day, I'll look into the mirror and actually see a girl there. One day, I'll take a quick selfie and actually admire it.

From the bottom of my heart, thank you guys, gals and nonbinary pals. You're all awesome ๐Ÿฉท

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[โ€“] happy_wheels@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Oh my gosh I'm so happy you're here! I love reading about your journey, both the highs and the lows. You are awesome!!

Aww, thank you ๐Ÿฉท

I guess this Lemmy account somehow became my personal HRT journal.
Without the fear of someone I know finding me here, I'm really much comfortable talking about some stuff.
For better or for worse...

I do enjoy posting my experiences, even the really bad ones. I hope I can at least provide useful information to someone, even just one person. Probably not, but I'm not giving up! ๐Ÿ˜†

Anyway, thank you. You're awesome!

Glad to see you feel better.

Thank you for sharing! Your bravery and honesty with yourself is inspiring! ๐Ÿฅฐ

[โ€“] AzuraTheSpellkissed@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

You are awesome no less. It's lovely how open and honest you are ๐Ÿ’œ

Brighter days after scheduled right after the bad ones.

[โ€“] GalacticSushi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I'm sorry to hear things didn't go well today, but glad you're here to tell everyone. And don't worry about the crying, it's just part of processing the rough stuff. Don't let anyone's lack of acceptance let you think that you're not valid or don't deserve happiness.

You are loved and we're all happy that you're here. ๐Ÿฉต

Thank you. Honestly thank you โค๏ธ

Also...nice username. I love sushi!
You just reminded me how hungry I am, I haven't eaten anything today. I don't eat much...

I'll try to take care of myself and recover from this nightmare of a day. Thanks again, kind Sushi stranger!

[โ€“] Bryllyg@piefed.blahaj.zone 12 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Thank you for letting us know. I am so glad you are ok and I hope your days improve. You are making it through and you are stronger than you realize. Big hugs if you want them. ๐Ÿ’œ

[โ€“] AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I won't ever turn down hugs ๐Ÿฉท

and I hope your days improve

Thank you. Me too, honestly. It feels like I exhausted my supply of bad days for the next week just today.
It really took it out of me. Especially since I was looking forward to it so much. Oh well

[โ€“] Bryllyg@piefed.blahaj.zone 7 points 5 days ago (1 children)

There will be waaay better birthday parties.

I mean, now you have the lowest bar, every birthday party after this is statistically going to be way better.

Here are the hugs. ๐Ÿซ‚๐Ÿซ‚๐Ÿซ‚

Thank you sibling.

Hugs ๐Ÿซ‚

[โ€“] Anarki_@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 5 days ago

Hell yea sibling. We're right behind you <3

[โ€“] jckwik@discuss.online 6 points 4 days ago

๐Ÿ’œ you are special and loved

[โ€“] lwhjp@piefed.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I think your outfit looked great. Honestly it suits you and presents really feminine energy. Glad to hear you're looking to the future <3

I don't know how happy you'll be to hear this, but I think you look a lot like Ashley Gavin (I mean it in a good way, honest)

Hey, I am happy to hear that. That's quite a compliment! Thank you <3