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Wdym take my own advice? That's not how this works

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[–] TheTechnician27@lemmy.world 76 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Any female born after 1993 can't cook. All they know is:

[–] Nouvellalia@lemmy.world 88 points 3 days ago
  • Drink water
  • ADHD medication
  • Transition
[–] Feidry@sh.itjust.works 43 points 3 days ago
  • Charge they phone

  • Eat hot chip

  • Lie

[–] vocornflakes@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago
  • Be bisexual
[–] Lumidaub@feddit.org 53 points 3 days ago (5 children)
[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 34 points 3 days ago (1 children)

The beatings will continue until morale improves

[–] Passerby6497@lemmy.world 12 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I've been meaning to get a sign like that for my dungeon (when I can have one!)

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago

I really wish I foresaw having a home dungeon anytime soon… and yeah it's a classic sign for them

[–] wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 4 points 2 days ago

Doesn't that require at least one consenting partner though?

So if someone already feels irretrievably doomed, it's kinda like telling them "Just find someone who loves you and is willing to try kinky stuff with you that usually scares a majority of people."

[–] Wild_Mastic@lemmy.world 9 points 3 days ago

Good luck and have fun

[–] funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 days ago

with a caring partner, yes. There are plenty of bad actors in the community unfortunately. Being part of munches and social events helps reduce them as most chuds don't have the patience.

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 45 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Too late, I transitioned, and now I breast boobily with my tits out front. Also my boobs were there. I still exist though.

[–] Epp@lemmus.org 28 points 3 days ago

Having boobs is excellent justification for continued existence.

[–] NinePeedles@sh.itjust.works 11 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I've heard data build tool (dbt) is super powerful for data engineering.

[–] Wfh@lemmy.zip 2 points 3 days ago

It is!

But Jinja syntax sucks ass. At least you can do some powerful macro fuckery standard SQL could only dream of.

[–] superduperpirate@lemmy.world 10 points 3 days ago (3 children)

I wonder if the DBT was supposed to be CBT

[–] Epp@lemmus.org 28 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Deep breath therapy and cock & ball torture are wildly different, but perhaps they can be combined into a single activity that is far more effective than either on its own. 🤔

[–] Kowowow@lemmy.ca 3 points 3 days ago

Well controlled breathing seems important in child birth and that's painful so it would either help or make both less effective

[–] CelloMike@lemmy.world 15 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Looked it up - dialectical behaviour therapy, apparently

[–] aeiou@piefed.social 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

instructions unclear, gave myself deep brain thrombosis

[–] possumparty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 days ago

do you still have both of your shoes on? if so, then you're good 👍🏻

[–] superduperpirate@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Yeah I was wondering maybe they meant cognitive behavioral therapy?

[–] Lumidaub@feddit.org 8 points 3 days ago

Both CBT and DBT are types of therapy that exist, so I see no reason to assume whoever wrote this didn't mean what they wrote.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Probably not. DBT is based off CBT but has some additional elements that can be super helpful for some people.

My wife is currently in it for PTSD and it's doing things for her that CBT would struggle with. It can also do everything CBT does, speaking as someone who had great benefits from CBT.

[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Yep yep!

CBT has worked very well for me and my (C)PTSD... its essentially a westernized version of the core of some Zen practices, sort of.

And yep, DBT is a sort of variant/evolution of DBT that involves different techniques, different sort of schedule... and apparently uses ... essentially 'stronger' sort of human hacks, basically, that can bring calm and help build internal structure/stability, via what I'd call funny quirks of human neuro-physiology, as well as basically being a structured space to process older traumas / intense emotions in.

CBT and DBT are also neat in that they are actually considerably empirically verified to actually work in their use cases, and at least CBT, hell I think nearly anyone who is frequently just stressed out could be helped by learning CBT, being taken through a few rounds of it till you can learn how to do it yourself.

A more qualified write up here:

https://www.choosingtherapy.com/dbt-vs-cbt/

[–] superduperpirate@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I wasn’t aware of DBT as a therapy form until this comment chain, honestly, so I think I saw the original and assumed it was intended to be CBT but a typo got in the way.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago

Yeah it's less well known, I mostly originally knew about it because of my history of interaction with folks who have borderline personality disorder (it was originally developed to treat it). And yeah one of the really big things it does that cbt doesn't is working on emotional control with stuff like building distress tolerance.

It's definitely no fun, my wife is really not enjoying it, but it is really helping her.

I generally encourage anyone whose struggling with destructive thoughts/behavior or ptsd to give it a consideration

[–] JoeBigelow@lemmy.ca 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Dialectics saved my marriage and probably my life

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago

Yeah from everything I've heard from folks who need it it's absolutely life-changing. My wife is definitely not enjoying it, but after only a few months we're seeing real improvements beyond what talk therapy had done for her (it had also been helpful).

And that's just for ptsd, a former friend with bpd went from destructive to themselves and those around them to significantly less so (they were still in treatment when we wound up going in different directions).

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 8 points 3 days ago

transpidgeon

I think they did

[–] Jankatarch@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

This is your future in 4-day workweek leftists want!

[–] yoriaiko@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 3 days ago

reverse order... pardon my ignorance, I'm aware of TBD and msdb, then what's D nimativ and DHDA?

[–] HerbGrower@slrpnk.net 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

No, that is the order it is written, that is the order you must commit!

[–] takeda@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Ok, I guess I'm missing the plot, but how posts like this one (I'm inside this ass example, I actually see a lot of other posts do it) matches "me in real life" format? Which one of the 5 people there are you?

[–] Lumidaub@feddit.org 3 points 2 days ago

All of them.

Don't take the "me in real life" too literally, it's a mix of "this is SO fucking relatable" and shitposting.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Either 7 or 8 of these absolutely did fix me (it was CBT, not DBT). And yeah I went pretty much in order

[–] TheOakTree@lemmy.zip 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Cock and Ball Torture was that transformative for you?

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Well for me the real torture was having them

[–] TheOakTree@lemmy.zip 3 points 2 days ago

Well played well played

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 1 points 3 days ago

"I see here you've listed... Debit?"

"Oh no, that's 'da butt.' I also enjoy tennis."