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Thought for the day
I just started reading The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck.
There are some nice insights in the book so far, but one that has really stuck out is:
"The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience."
Do you try to be happy?
I like these lite philosophical questions you ask.
I think I tend more towards trying not to be unhappy.. Most of the things I do are driven negatively by a fear of chaos and proactive avoidance of stress, and positively by a desire to achieve and be organised. Happiness doesn't consciously factor in very often.
For most of my life I don't think I have been overly happy, but I've reached some decent depths of depression. Most of the time I'm 'just ok.'
I've been in some pretty dark places, so if I can be just ok, I'm happy with that. Oh hey, there you go. I guess I do try!
LOL
I like these lite philosophical questions you ask.
I tend to think big thoughts often, it is just the way I am. I could be far more esoteric; but I digress.
Early in my "adulthood" I was very depressed, I flirted with ideas of suicide often. Until one day; I had been ignoring my health and was sick, but still went out drinking and parting with some friends. I was always looking for external validation. Next morning I was walking home sick, with shit running down my leg, hungover in the freezing rain in clothes that were not suited to being in the rain. I decided at that point that I was going to end it when I got home....suffice to say, the walk home helped clear my head.
I realized that always trying to be happy and chasing happiness didn't work for me. From then on I was still depressed, but got better surprisingly quickly.
I was reading a book referencing a study a while back, the study gave everyone pagers, and throughout the day and asked them to rate their happiness. What they found is that while you get a brief blip when you dog dies or you win lotto, regardless of your demographic it's not long before you're back rating happiness at 7/10. Rich or poor, young or old, stressed or lazy: 7/10.
It may have even been this book I read it in 😆
About 20% through after lunch, if its in there I'll find it before long.
Ooh, that's one I've been meaning to read for a while. Overall, how are you enjoying the book so far?
From the book:
You know who bases their entire lives on their emotions? Three-year-old kids. And dogs. You know what else three-year- olds and dogs do? Shit on the carpet.
haha. I'll definitely be giving it a read soon :)
I'm about 10% through, it is really good.
It really starts strong with an interesting anecdote about the poet Charles Bukowski.
I read it a while back. If I remember rightly, it has mixed reviews because it doesn't click with everyone. I remember it being an enjoyable and easy read so I say give it a go.
Definitely! Got it in my list :) Been good to get an E-Reader. It's really got me enjoying searching for books and reading again.
I read on my eNote, it is not the best since it is 10" but it works well enough.
My old 7" e-reader has been claimed by my 7yo, he reads on it every day.
Mines even smaller! Only 6inches. I thought id struggle with the size, but find it pretty comfortable to use :)
I like the weight of the smaller one.... But I don't see it often
I must re read that. A good book - even if only for a different perspective
At a conference for work today. Free food and later free drinks, so worth having to leave the house.
Free food and drinks are always welcome
I worked with someone who worked from home for 18 months straight, and only came into the office eventually when their company put on a free lunch.