My ex tried this shit with me talking to any women. I had never, even once, given her any hint of inpropriety.
I ended it there, that day, and just stayed single for the next year or so.
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A person that jealous is a red flag for control
What, she once said "no more talking to other women"!?
A downward spiral that ended more or less there.
We had been together for a couple years, long distance. she was a couple months from moving back.
Start of conversation, I say: Kate said that the renfest tickets were about to go on sale
Who's Kate.
Kate at work, there's a crew that goes every year, we should go.
What else do you and Kate talk about?
Devolves into wanting an index of female friends and leading questions of if they are nice...
Mind you, we'd not been fighting; I was always accountable and on time. We had just spent most of a week together.
Near the end, she made it an "it's either me or her..."
Kate is gay... I could have went down that path, But at this point, "woah woah woah, give me your key, we're done"
I never regretted that.
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Had a friend who's wife started assuming he was cheating or trying to cheat with any other woman in his life. It was very extreme. Like - he once held the door open for a random woman entering a restaurant and she started accusing the woman of being a whore.
He ended up staying with her for a few more years because their daughter was 16 and he didn't want to end up paying child support, and when they split up the 18yo daughter moved in with him.
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yeah, i have met women who make this a requirement to date them. it's not common but it exists.
you basically can't interact with any other women than your family. because so much as smiling at a woman cashier at the grocery store is cheating. it's really not about that though, it's about their need to control you to feel secure.
it also is almost always a double standard, because that rule doesn't apply to her talking to men.
Yeah had woman like that. Cashier hand touch mind handing me my change at the grocery store. I ended it that day because she filp out over it.
Was driving and glanced at something in my peripheral, barely even registered what I was seeing before a shrill "SHEES FOUURTEEEEEEEENNN" blistered through my ear drums from the passengers seat.
Like I could have understood that reaction if I was legit checking out some 14yo girl but like I was just driving and watching out for pedestrians.
Tragically miserable human being that taught me a lot of life lessons the hard way.
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I’ve had a partner criticize my video game time before. They didn’t want to spend more time with me though, they just didn’t like that I was talking to other people online. I’ve also had a partner spend 90% of their free time online and ignore our relationship. What I find most interesting about the meme however is that any time it comes up it’s always the female partner giving the ultimatum, and I do not think that is a coincidence, I think it’s shaping a perception, and rage bait.
It's absolutely pushing an agenda. But for once, the guy's response is reasonable and healthy.
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Instructions unclear.
Married a woman who plays video games with me.
My wife is currently breeding an army of factory workers for me in exchange for a ton of ammo and raw materials in Palworld.
Hot
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lol @ the comments are arguing about the speculative context for this conversation. Either one of these fictional people could be unreasonable given different context.
Yall are telling on your own insecurities.
Obviously the woman has cancer and has only a week to live, but the husband is a world class esports athlete and he promised an entire ward of kids with cancer that he'd win the championship.
But the husband has cancer too and this is the last time that he can play before his eyes need to be surgically removed. But he doesn't know that his wife made a deal with the devil, if she can get the husband to stop playing games then Satan will erase cancer from the world and the entire ward of children will be instantly healed.
But if her husband finds out about this deal he will instantly kill everyone. This is a very complex situation.
This is a little far-fetched.
The man comes from a long-line of noble gamers and is merely upholding the traditional values he was raised on, lest he distress the spirits of his ancestors. The woman was raised by puritan chess masters during the castle siege of Fort Boyard and views the world only under the paranoid lens of allegiance/betrayal.
It's a simple culture clash that likely leads to some interesting bedtime shenanigans that gets them both off, e.g. Lockpicking a chastity belt whilst she eggs him on in French
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The answer to most ultimatums is no. It's one thing if it's something you need to change and is reasonable to demand, but even then by the time it hits an ultimatum the relationship is often in a position where the damage runs deep.
I've ended an engagement over an ultimatum and it's one of the best decisions I've made
What blows my mind, is everytime I was issued one of these... it was from a person who was objectively like way worse or had way bigger issues than I did.
Like, yeah I have to stop playing video games, but you have to pay off your $50,000 in credit card debt.
And the reply was, no, you have to quit video games, so you can work more, and make more money and pay off my debt for me.
And naturally friends/family took her side, because I have the penis and it's my job to pay off her debts, or some bullshit.
anyway, good news is i'm single and financially secure, and happy, instead of together with someone being broke and miserable all the time and doesn't allow me to have any joy on my own.
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Them: You have to stop playing video games, they're a waste of money and time and take up too much space
Me: Ok, then you stop collecting funkos
"You need to stop playing video games"
Normal people: says the person that is on Instagram and TikTok for eight hours a day?
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The answer to most ultimatums is no.
Yes! It took me far to long to internalize this.
Ultimatums are never productive, and anyone issuing them is either desperate or an asshole. (Sometimes both.)
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Relationships built on ultimatums are very abusive. You're forcing someone to do something they don't want to do to fit your expectations.
If you feel like your only recourse to get what you want is to make an ultimatum, maybe it's already time to move on.
It depends on the more on what is at stake more than just the ultimatum. Get sober or get out is very different than stop your hobby or get out. No matter how you try to get someone to give up their running club, it's probably an abusive move.
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Yes, but:
Three hours later
OMG so why did you guys break up? You were so perfect for each other!
He chose his video games over me...
Wow what a loser, you're so much better than him
I'm sure he's devastated that his ex's friends are supporting her.
Not uncommon for couples to share friends. No matter who it is, no one likes getting bad mouthed behind their back
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Such an alpha move when, if someone sits you down, you first get up and sit down on the other side of them before you respond.
Also pushing the book shelf across the room and rearranging all the books
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I would never date an extrovert or someone with no hobbies for exactly this reason. They need you to entertain them or they throw a fit.
This is so true.
Choosing my introverted life partner was the best choice I ever made. Or the best choice they ever made for me...or somewhere in between. But great choice, all around.
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This is a reasonable response, however if his habits are inhibiting his lifestyle then she has every right to bring it up as an issue.
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The fact they've graduated from a "talking stick" to rearranging the furniture and trading sides of the couch between responses was prob an early warning sign
A video game addiction is a very real thing. If the context had been that he was developing some dangerous habits, that'd be different.
So many on here are critical of the lady without knowing the full circumstance. Some people have a huge game addiction problem to level like alcohol or drugs and cannot regulate/manage appropriately. She may have tried more conservative options. If she said either you quit alcohol or gambling or I am leaving...no one would bat an eye. I play video games, have for decades, and know I can neglect my daily life if I let myself. So it isn't black and white.
So I'm a woman and I play a lot of games. But I don't disregard my other responsibilities over games.
I dated a guy gamer many years back and he played literally every single day for at least 4 hours usually more.
Mostly in the evenings. Most of the day on his days off. But he definitely would make excuses why he couldn't help me with things all the time just to go and play games instead.
I sure would have liked to be able to fuck around all the time too but things have to be done.
He basically lived with me so it was frustrating to always be cleaning up after him because he just played games in all of his free time whereas I had to clean and do my studies when I wasn't working. And the little free time I had to maybe go out and do something, he just wanted to play games.
Idk if I would call it addiction. But he just prioritized it over time with me. And I wasn't even asking for much as I worked full time and went to school half time. He had a part time job.
I dated him way too long. 2 years.
He mostly played league of legends. He didn't really play anything else. Which I also thought was kinda meh.
Zero other hobbies or interests.
As I said I myself play a lot of games. I'm not against video games as a pastime. But for some it's literally the only thing they do and they prioritize it over experiencing life or being present for anyone else. Use it as an excuse to not help out their partner or take care of themselves.
I was always cleaning up after him.
It wasn't a video game issue per se. It was him being incapable of putting in effort. And using games to avoid responsibilities. But I could see how someone might think it was the gaming causing the problem.
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