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[–] BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today 7 points 3 days ago

My sincerest condolences. These little guys touch us so deeply, but they are destined to break our hearts with their short life spans. As you get older, those 15 year increments (sometimes less) add up to a lot of heartbreak, and I've know many people who have sworn off having any more pets, because as much as they truly, deeply love them, the loss is too hard for some to take. Personally, I think it is far more than worth it.

18 years ago, we were adopted by a big Tomcat, who was the king of the cul-de-sac. He tried out a few other families, but really loved my son, so he chose us. After a short probationary period, we were fully approved, and he moved his gorgeous Siamese girlfriend (of course she was, Jake had game), and their three kittens in.

No humans were consulted in any of these decisions.

I did the math back then, and knew that a time would come when we would lose them in a fairly short period of time, and that's what's happened over the last 3 years. One by one, they've left us, starting with Jake. He'd lived an adventurous life, getting drowned once, shot twice, wildly hallucinating after eating a lizard, having the only white on his body, the tip of his tail, bitten off in a raccoon fight, and surviving many fights with lesser neighborhood stray cats. He used every one of his nine lives, and borrowed a few from some of our other more timid cats. He was a true force of nature, and all our other cats looked up to him like the King he was.

Especially to Charlie, his son. To find Charlie, all you had to do was find Jake, and Charlie was probably right beside him, laying in the exact same position. We knew when Jake went, Charlie would be heartbroken, and he was. He would walk through the house at night, calling for Jake, and that broke the human hearts.

Maggie, Jake's Siamese girlfriend, was my closest companion. Siamese often bond to one person, and she chose me, sleeping next to my head most nights. Losing her was really tough for me.

There is only one left, roly poly little Chloe. When I first saw her as a kitten, I remarked at how perfectly round she was, and predicted she'd be the healthiest of them all, and she has been. We took her to the vet only a couple of times, and that was just because we thought we should. She never seemed to get sick. Today she's blind and arthritic, and maybe a little senile. She spends her days sleeping on the couch next to my wife, and when she wants a drink, she puts a paw on my wife's arm, and she'll hold a little dish for her to drink from. At 18 1/2 years old, any day could be her last, so we're treating her like a Queen, the last one standing from Jake's beautiful little cat family that gave us so much joy.

[–] its_kim_love@lemmy.blahaj.zone 71 points 4 days ago (6 children)

For those who wish to know.

Tap for spoilerThe Vet initially thought she had been hit by a car. She was covered in bruises and coughing up blood. After finding out she was an inside cat they deduced that she probably chewed on a wire and was electrocuted.

[–] Emma_Gold_Man@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Oh honey - I'm so sorry. That explains why she looks so young in all the pictures - it's because she was.

We lost both of ours and both dogs over the course of about a year and a half. They were every one of them old, and it was still absolutely crushing every time. To lose one so young, and to such a trauma indoors where we assume they're going to be safe - the heartbreak and shock together must be absolutely heartbreaking.

I'm so sorry

[–] LadyMeow@lemmy.blahaj.zone 34 points 4 days ago

Oh my gosh I’m so so so sorry. :( Sue looked like such a fun and loving kitty

[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 28 points 4 days ago

Oh I am so sorry for both of you. It must've been terrible to find her so terribly injured, and to make the desperate run to the vet, and then she couldn't be saved. At least they could make her passing less painful. Some cats are just so determined to do dangerous things, especially chewing/eating things they shouldn't, that there's no stopping them. Sounds like she had a fierce independent spirit in her little body. Now it's gone, but you'll see flashes of it out in the world, and feel its warmth deep in your heart. Take your time to recover. But also know that if another cat comes into the empty place in your life, her claim on you will be undiminished.

[–] mavu@discuss.tchncs.de 14 points 4 days ago

That is terrible! But it is not your fault.
Accidents happen.

My second cat was hit by a car in the night, after i shooed him away from me because i wanted to sleep and he wanted to play. It took a while to stop thinking that if only i had played with him a bit, he would not have gone out, and get hit by a car.

But that is not how the world works. Accidents happen. you cannot blame yourself and definitely cannot make the world perfectly safe.

❤️

[–] islandcoda42@lemmy.zip 5 points 3 days ago

Im so sorry. This is a fear I’ve had for a while now. You can’t hide every cord, ya just hope they don’t chew on them. Rest in peace to your beautiful kitty💕🌈❤️💕

[–] naeap@sopuli.xyz 9 points 4 days ago

Ooph, that's hard to hear

Feel hugged, that's a tough one

Not sure, what else I can say, because there isn't much.
I'm just really sorry for you

In these kinds of times it can seem pointless, but please make sure you eat and rest well, grieving is taxing on the mind and body, take care.

In the end all we can hope for is having given them a happy and comfortable life, I'm sure you did.

i lost my kitten a few months ago and miss her everyday. I whispered a prayer across the bridge to my Luce and told her to greet your V, show her around, and keep her snuggled up at night until you're both reunited. From one cat lover to another, thank you for giving V the best life by filling it with love and happiness. Big hugs and much love to you, OP.

[–] SaveTheTuaHawk@lemmy.ca 4 points 3 days ago

The problem with pets is that they have none of the bad aspects of living with people but they just don't live long enough. You gave her a good happy life, and death is a part of life and living.

[–] xkbx@startrek.website 44 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Grieve. Feel it. That’s love. It hurts and it’s heavy, but that’s just the cost of them moving from a physical reality to one of memory and emotion. Don’t shut it out - mitigate it if you have to, bit by bit. But grief, to me, has never been about those you love leaving, that’s just them knocking at your heart’s door, asking to be let in.

[–] Hafler@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago

I agree. Grief is the price we pay for love.

[–] mwknight@lemmy.world 26 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I don't know you but I know what you're feeling right now. I lost my Orange Boy just a few weeks ago and even this weekend I still felt it. I wish I could share more comfort with you, fellow person. I can share this quote by Kate Braestrup that comforts me in times of loss:

Grief is just love squaring up to its oldest mortal enemy. After all these mortal human years, love is up to the challenge..

As bad as that feeling is right now, it means V mattered and was loved.

[–] HugeNerd@lemmy.ca 4 points 3 days ago

I cried for a week when my big gibb died.

[–] crypt0cler1c@infosec.pub 4 points 3 days ago

Aww they are beautiful. We are so blessed to have them. I'm sorry.

[–] GenLe@lemmy.ml 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

💔 R.I.P. V.

[–] its_kim_love@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

V was gone far far too soon. I miss her so much. I basically laid in bed all day missing her. The way she used to lay on my chest and suck on her tail. She had the most expressive eyes, and the little bit of white on her brow made her look constantly concerned. Like her namesake she burned bright and is a legend. Burying two cats in less than 6 months has left me feeling hallow. Now I have two ghosts glimpsed in the corner of my eye as I walk into a room, and two little crosses behind a house I'm leaving soon.

When I die

Give what’s left of me away

To children

And old men that wait to die.

And if you need to cry,

Cry for your brother

Walking the street beside you.

And when you need me,

Put your arms

Around anyone

And give them

What you need to give to me.

I want to leave you something,

Something better

Than words

Or sounds.

Look for me

In the people I’ve known

Or loved,

And if you cannot give me away,

At least let me live on in your eyes

And not your mind.

You can love me most

By letting

Hands touch hands,

By letting bodies touch bodies,

And by letting go

Of children

That need to be free.

Love doesn’t die,

People do.

So, when all that’s left of me

Is love,

Give me away.

[–] WatermelonPaloma@lemmy.world 4 points 3 days ago

I'm so sorry for your loss, and for poor V. She was so adorable with her markings. Losing a loved one suddenly can be traumatic, I am really feeling for you.

[–] Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I’m so sorry, that’s heartbreaking. Cats are experts at getting into and doing things they shouldn’t, even when you take steps to keep them safe. Remember that she spent her time with you loved.

[–] Carl@anarchist.nexus 4 points 4 days ago

Yeah, even the smartest cats are only about as smart is a 3 year old. And anyone who has ever watched a 3 year old knows that they’re constantly attempting to kill themselves. The issue is that cats have the physical capacity to get into way more dangerous scenarios, because they can easily jump, climb, and squeeze into places that a 3 year old wouldn’t be able to. So even if you have toddler-proofed your house, (which is a massive task by itself) there are still plenty of things that a cat can get into.

I'm sorry for your loss big internet hugs

[–] Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus 21 points 4 days ago

I'm so sorry for you.

Give yourself a while to grieve, and maybe think about getting another cat to care for - that is the only thing that was able to make me think less about the loss of a beloved companion and keep me in the present where there is someone who needs your attention and affection.

[–] Quibblekrust@thelemmy.club 8 points 3 days ago

Aww, poor V. I'm so sorry. 😢

[–] unemployedclaquer@sopuli.xyz 9 points 4 days ago

Your Kitty loves you

[–] LowtierComputer@lemmy.world 22 points 4 days ago

I'm very sorry. Shit like this happens and there's often nothing you can do.

[–] TheLastOfHisName@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago

I am so sorry for your loss.

[–] Avicenna@programming.dev 12 points 4 days ago

Sorry to hear that I am sure she had a wonderful life with you

[–] mavu@discuss.tchncs.de 13 points 4 days ago

I'm so sorry for your loss.

she will always be alive in your heart and memory, don't forget that.

and remember that there are many cats that need help and a home, maybe some day in the future, you can help one.

[–] Seleni@lemmy.world 19 points 4 days ago

Oh, I am so sorry. Sending hugs

[–] El_Scapacabra@lemmy.zip 7 points 4 days ago

I'm very, very sorry for your loss. I hope you can take some time to breathe and grieve...

[–] TryingToBeGood@reddthat.com 7 points 4 days ago

I’m so sorry 😢

[–] DataCrime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 4 days ago

Apparently there’s words for a flock of cats. But personally, I call my current and future cat family, my continuity of cats.

This is the way.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 16 points 4 days ago

I'm so sorry. That's awful.

[–] VoteNixon2016@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Her ears are so big! 🖤🤍

If you're crying for her, you won't be alone in that tonight

[–] ivanafterall@lemmy.world 12 points 4 days ago

I'm very sorry. :(

[–] W98BSoD@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 4 days ago

Sorry for your loss.

[–] Hadriscus@jlai.lu 5 points 4 days ago

oh, she looked beautiful. I'm sorry. I can feel your pain

[–] NocturnalMorning@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago

Sorry for your loss. No words will bring back your cat, but I'll be thinking about the two of you tonight <3

[–] RagingRobot@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

Sorry about your Kitty.

[–] criss_cross@lemmy.world 3 points 4 days ago

I’m so sorry!