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[–] iii@mander.xyz 23 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children)

Rice, lentils and beans.

Affordable, store forever, can cook em in a thousand ways. I think half of the calories I eat come from those 3.

[–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Lentils make me fart death

[–] gigachad@piefed.social 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Wash them before you cook them, it really helps. Even better if you put them in water overnight.

[–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

You don't seem to be getting it

[–] gigachad@piefed.social 1 points 10 months ago

So it seems

[–] iii@mander.xyz 1 points 10 months ago
[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)
[–] iii@mander.xyz 5 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Sure!

Mujadara is my favourite.

Cassoulet is amazing.

Rice and bean wraps, with bell peppers, brocolli, and cheese.

Onion and bean soup.

Rice and mince stuffed bell peppers.

There's even sweets, like rice pudding made with coconut milk.

[–] Angelusz@lemmy.world 22 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Get offline. Don't always bring your phone everywhere you go. Turn it off a few hours a day.

Put it on DND as much as possible.

Same goes for any other digital device ofc.

If you get bored, find a solution, offline. Talk to friends or family for advice, take a walk, join a club.

We don't need the digital world at all. We're all just a bit addicted to it.

[–] BootLoop@sh.itjust.works 8 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I put mine in DND mode and it started texting all my contacts to see what night works best to meet.

[–] Rednax@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I'm so glad my friends and I all turn on DND mode on tuesday evening. After years of doing so, it has become a holy evening, were no other shit is planned on by any of us.

[–] Angelusz@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago

Guess what! As always, gem's in the dirt, wisdom prevails.

[–] allidoislietomyself@lemmy.world 20 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Have a place for your important things (wallet, phone, keys, etc) and always put it away in that place when it's not on you.

[–] BilboBargains@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)

This is a way of life for people with attention deficit. When I put my keys down in an unfamiliar place I get anxiety because I know my future self is potentially going to waste hours looking for them.

[–] socsa@piefed.social 9 points 10 months ago (2 children)

This is why I get so frustrated when my wife "cleans up" behind me. It has taken literally decades to develop coping strategies for this kind of stuff, and a big part of that is a visual inventory of tasks. The screwdriver on my desk reminds me I need to finish fixing the fan. The bank statement reminds me I need to send in the property taxes. The zip ties remind me I need to trellis the tomatoes. I know it looks like clutter, but it's actually a super important part of my organization.

[–] Pieisawesome@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 10 months ago

I thought the zip ties were going to go in a completely different direction

[–] BilboBargains@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago

There is something fascinating about using visual cues as a means of self organisation. We think of it as completely normal but other people see chaos. These coping strategies independently arise in ADHD people. Until very recently I just assumed everyone did this and it has been super interesting to learn that a lot of my behaviours and habits are workarounds. You make the best hand with the cards you have been dealt. That said I do get upset if someone moves my keys. Who knows it may have even been me because I can't remember but the important thing is to be compassionate with ourselves and others.

[–] Pipster@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Go for a walk. Its cliché and I hate that it works but it genuinely can lift your mood and outlook. Plus you burn more calories than you might think.

[–] iii@mander.xyz 16 points 10 months ago

I used to think walking my dog was for his benefit.

Then he got surgery, and we can't take our walks anymore. I noticed I miss them more than him.

So now we go on bicycle rides together :)

[–] reallykindasorta@slrpnk.net 13 points 10 months ago

Being embedded in a community where you live.

Don’t take it for granted if you have it!

[–] Libb@piefed.social 11 points 10 months ago

Reading books.

[–] Harbinger01173430@lemmy.world 9 points 10 months ago

Being born in a rich family

[–] Brainsploosh@lemmy.world 8 points 10 months ago

Figuring out your values.

Knowing what you actually care about let's you sidestep so much drama.

Interacting according to your actual principles let's you filter out so many frustrating people and situations.

It gives you calm, purpose, and a satisfying life. As you learn more about how to apply your values, you'll also have a direct route to contentment and happiness.

[–] Callypo@lemmy.world 8 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Learning about your wants and needs and how to communicate them.

I got recently Diagnosed with autism and before that always struggled with the demands of others and how to Tell others that I dont want to / can Not do something. Now I know that it is totally socially acceptable to just Tell others to suck your left nut and if the have any questions about that, Tell them youre autistic and cant be arsed.

[–] Treczoks@lemmy.world 7 points 10 months ago

Up, Up, Down, Down, Left, Right, Left, Right, B, A, Start.

[–] kopasz7@sh.itjust.works 7 points 10 months ago

Be nice to people, yourself included.

[–] webghost0101@sopuli.xyz 6 points 10 months ago

Slowly taking a full breath in and out using your nose.

Also more sleep makes you less tired.

But just because you are given the ancient wisdom does not mean you can master it, i am always tired and often forget to a breath.

[–] bananabenana@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago

Divorcing your identity from your job. You aren't a teacher etc, you are someone who teaches (for $). Makes decision making within and outside work simpler

[–] shawn1122@sh.itjust.works 6 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Know yourself. Not your hobbies, your habits, or your job. Your worldview. Understand its biases, its flaws and who may be hurt by it. Craft it with meaningful ideas that recognize the inherent value in the gift of life. Create rituals with those you love that celebrate and express gratitude for this shared existence.

If you have lost heart in the path of Love, flee to Me without delay: I am a fortress invincible. Rumi

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)
[–] Kyrgizion@lemmy.world 15 points 10 months ago

If working for yourself.

When employed, work smart, not hard. Working really hard will only get you more work for the same pay.

[–] Xenny@lemmy.world 5 points 10 months ago

Friends that have your back

[–] guy@piefed.social 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

The ability to both intro- and retrospect.
To understand how you are, feel and function is important to self development and to become a better you.

edit: what !ImgurRefugee114@reddthat.com said

[–] troed@fedia.io 4 points 10 months ago

Be friendly towards others (cashiers as well as managers)*. Ask them how they are. Offer to help.

When there's something you then need, you'll be surprised at how easy it comes.

*) but dish it out if they turn out to be assholes

[–] ImgurRefugee114@reddthat.com 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Observe and learn your habits and emotions. Journal, analyze, and exploit your findings. Can help reduce struggles or improve performance; most of all, learn to know yourself and work with yourself.

Also, discipline isn't a bad word: discipline isn't to do things you hate, but is to follow what you truly want.

Perspective matters. You're a radio and you can learn to (partially) tune yourself into what you want to hear; you're almost never just feeling a single emotion.

Also the root of all emotions, including negative ones, is love. Though this sounds like bullshit and isn't very useful until you've reached a certain point.

[–] SapphironZA@sh.itjust.works 4 points 10 months ago

Audiobooks while doing chores and doing shopping.